Gina (my 20 year old daughter) tweeted – “My parents, who are usually very much in love become extreme enemies when they do home renos – every time.”
Ah, from the mouths of babes. Well, she is partially right – we do love each other very much and we do not look forward to home renos – does anyone?
In any case we usually try to figure out how many ‘swears’ this project will elicit and if it’s more than a ‘four swear job’ we can generally agree that it’s worth paying someone else to do it.
This week however we ignored our own rule and even though the last time we tried to put up a ceiling fan we just about got divorced we still took on the dubious task of wallpapering together. Not just any wallpaper mind you, delicate seagrass wallpaper that had to be lined up and treated like a fine cashmere sweater…urghh.
Insert swears here. More than four.
But, they say things are only a failure if you don’t learn from them, so I guess you could say this wasn’t a failure because here is what I learned (or was reminded of) and I hope it serves you as well:
- you get what you expect – if we expected things to be an awful, hairpulling mess -guess what – it generally will be.
- bad energy is contagious – like a flu bug, your mad, makes me mad and when mom’s mad – well that never ends well.
So next time, we are going to have a pre-reno conference and here’s what we are going to do:
Ask, on a scale of 1-10, what experience do we want this reno to be, let’s say I’d be super happy with an 8.
Discuss – what do we need to do to create an 8 experience?
- start with a good attitude and a good kiss
- put some music on that we both like
- agree on regular breaks
- compliment each other as we are going along when the other person does something right
- put on our patience caps
- ensure we have all our supplies before we start
- watch the YouTube video on how to install it again – even though we watched it two weeks ago
- plan for a little reward when it’s done
All that is likely to combine to make an 8 experience rather than the 3 that we had.
What experience would you like to create? What job would you like to shift your attitude about? On a scale of 1-10 – what number would you like the experience to be when you are done? What do you need to do now, to get to that number?
This one little tiny preparation could be better than all the wall primer in the world. Try it and see how is works for you! Let me know.
Life Coach Stephanie Staples can be heard Sunday mornings from 9-10 am on CJOB, seen at the every Motivational Mondays event and contacted via http://YourLifeUnlimited.ca for your coaching or speaking needs!